February 15, 2008

February 14, 2008

  • Here’s some help for those of us who have problems with negative emotions and feelings, especially those who get overwhelmed easily:

    The Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking- (Or reasons to get over oneself)

    1) All or Nothing thinking-  You look at things in absolute, black and white categories; shades of gray do not exist.
    2) Overgeneralization- You view a negative event as a never ending pattern of defeat.
    3) Mental Filter- You dwell on the negatives and ignore the positives.
    4) Discounting the Positives- You insist that the positives do not count.
    5) Jumping to conclusions- You jump to conlusions that are not warranted by the facts.  Fortune telling and mind-reading are two common forms of jumping to conclusions.
        Fortune Telling: You predict that things will turn out badly.  Before you give a talk you might get public speaking anxiety because you tell yourself, “My mind will go blank! I’ll make a total fool out of myself!”

        Mind Reading: You assume that other people are upset with you or looking down on you.
    6) Magnification or Minimization- You blow things way out of proportion (mangification) or shrink them in your mind’s eye (minimization) I have also called this the “binocular trick.”
    7) Emotional Reasoning- You reason from how you feel: “I feel like an idiot, therefore I must be one” or “I feel hopeless, therefor I must be hopeless,” or “I feel inferior, therefore I must be inferior.”
    8) “Should” Statements- You beat up on yourself or the other people with “shoulds”, “shouldn’t's” , “musts”, “oughts,” and “have to’s”
        Should statements that are directed against yourself lead to guilt and depression.  “I should have left my wife! Now I ‘ve lost her forever and screwed up my whole life!” Or “I shouldn’t be so depressed.  i should be better by  now.”
        Should statements that are directed against the world lead to frustration.  “Darn it, the darn bus should be on time when i’m in such a hurry!”

        Should statements that are directed against other people lead to anger: “You shoudl’tn feel that way! You’ve got no right to say that.
    9) Labeling and mislabeling- Labeling is an extreme form of overgeneralization.  You label your entire self based on some flaw or shortcoming.  Instead of saying “i made a mistake”, you tell yourself, “i’m a jerk” or “a loser”.

        Mislabeling is where you use overly colorful and emotionally loaded words when you think about your problems.  If you catch a cold before an athletic competition you might get excessively angry because you tell yourself “unfair” that you got a cold.  This thought makes you feel like you have been singled out by God for some undeserved punishment.  In contrast, if you tell yourself “unfortunate” that you got a cold at just the wrong time, you will probably feel less frustrated.
    10) Personalization and Blame- You blame yourself (personalization) or others (blame) in a judgmental way.
        Self-blame is usually associated with feelings such as inadequacy, guilt, shame, and depression.
        Other-blame is usually associated with feelings of frustration, resentment, and anger.

    www.feelinggood.com/tutorials/full_distortion_list.htm

  • Ahahah. Audrey and Stella-

    I just realized my strengths seem to have a main existence of connecting me with people.

    Communication, Harmony, Adaptability, Context, and Activator to drive me to keep at it until it works?

    Isn’t that interesting?

    That is REALLY interesting.  I totally don’t have to feel bad about being a people person.  Most people might not understand simply because they have never had that unique combination in their lives?  What’s natural to me is super-foreign to others?  So interesting.

    Aud- what are the books I need to get? The other ones?

February 12, 2008

February 11, 2008

  • Strengths Finder- I don’t expect everyone to bother sorting through all this, as this is even new to me, but if you have a passion for this stuff, please respond with your comments.  I’m a little confused by Harmony.  I never considered myself much of a harmonizer? Warning: LOOOONG post. Not for the faint of heart!

    Your Top 5 Strengths Themes

    Communication
    Adaptability
    Harmony
    Activator
    Context

    COMMUNICATION

    Shared Theme Description
        People who are especially talented in the Communication theme generally find it easy to put their
    thoughts into words. They are good conversationalists and presenters.

    Your Personalized Strengths Insights

    What makes you stand out?
        Instinctively, you like to amuse people with your stories. Your stories probably provide people with
    pleasant distractions from their daily routines, worries, and obligations. Because of your strengths,
    you may be quite comfortable telling stories or describing your experiences. People might look
    forward to hearing what you have to say. Driven by your talents, you gravitate to situations where you
    will be in the company of others. You are much less inclined to be solitary or a loner. It’s very likely
    that you may have a knack for talking to people. Perhaps you have ways to engage them in
    discussions. Perhaps you encourage them to share their stories, ideas, or feelings. Sometimes you
    want to contribute to the dialogue, too. This partially explains why you look for opportunities to
    express yourself as often as possible. Once in a while, you might acknowledge or affirm the
    interesting comments of specific individuals. By nature, you sometimes feel confident talking about
    topics or activities you have mastered. Building on your natural abilities, you might acquire additional
    knowledge or skills. Perhaps you know what to say when the conversation centers on your particular
    areas of expertise.

    Communication sounds like this:

        Sheila K., general manager of a theme park: “Stories are the best way to make my point. Yesterday I
    wanted to show my executive committee the impact we can have on our guests, so I shared this story
    with them: One of our employees brought her father to the flag-raising ceremony we have for
    Veterans Day here at the theme park. He was disabled during World War II, and he now has a rare
    form of cancer and has had a lot of surgery. He’s dying. At the start of the ceremony, one of our
    employees said to the group, ‘This man is a World War II veteran. Can we give him a hand?’
    Everybody cheered, and his daughter started crying. Her dad took off his hat. He never takes off his
    hat because of the scars on his head from the war and the cancer surgery, but when the national
    anthem started, he took off his hat and bowed his head. His daughter told me later that it was the best
    day he’s had in years.”

        Tom P., banking executive: “My most recent client thought that the flow of capital toward Internet
    stocks was just a passing phase. I tried using a rational argument to change his mind, but he couldn’t
    or wouldn’t be convinced. In the end, as I often do when faced with a client in denial, I resorted to
    imagery. I told him that he was like a person sitting on a beach with his back to the sea. The Internet
    was like a fast-rising tide. No matter how comfortable he felt right now, the tide was rising with each
    crashing wave, and very soon, one of those waves would come crashing down over his head and
    engulf him. He got the point.”

        Margret D., marketing director: “I once read a book about giving speeches that gave two suggestions:
    Talk only about things you’re really passionate about, and always use personal examples. I
    immediately started doing that, and I found lots of stories because I have kids and grandkids and a
    husband. I build my stories around my personal experiences because everyone can relate to them.”

    Ideas for Action:

        You will always do well in roles that require you to capture people’s attention. Think about a
    career in teaching, sales, marketing, ministry, or the media. Your Communication talents are
    likely to flourish in these areas.
        Start a collection of stories or phrases that resonate with you. For example, cut out
    magazine articles that move you, or write down powerful word combinations. Practice telling
    these stories or saying these words out loud, by yourself. Listen to yourself actually saying
    the words. Refine.
        When you are presenting, pay close attention to your audience. Watch their reactions to
    each part of your presentation. You will notice that some parts are especially engaging.
    Afterwards, take time to identify the moments that particularly caught the audience’s
    attention. Draft your next presentation around these highlights.
        Practice. Improvisation has a certain appeal, but in general, an audience will respond best to
    a presenter who knows where he or she is headed. Counterintuitively, the more prepared
    you are, the more natural your improvisations will appear.
        Identify your most beneficial sounding boards and audiences — the listeners who seem to
    bring out your best communication. Examine these individuals or groups to learn why you
    are so good when you speak with them or to them, and look for the same qualities in
    potential partners and audiences.
        Keep getting smarter about the words you use. They are a critical currency. Spend them
    wisely, and monitor their impact.  Your Communication talents can be highly effective when your message has substance.   Don’t rely on your talents alone; take your communication to the level of strength by
    developing your knowledge and expertise in specific areas.
     
     You are gifted in fostering dialogue among peers and colleagues. Use your Communication
    talents to summarize the various points in a meeting and to build consensus by helping
    others see what they have in common.

        If you enjoy writing, consider publishing your work. If you enjoy public speaking, make a
    presentation at a professional meeting or convention. In either case, your Communication
    talents will serve to assist you in finding just the right way to frame your ideas and state your
    purpose. You delight in sharing your thoughts with others, so find the medium that best fits
    your voice and message.

        Volunteer for opportunities to present. You can become known as someone who helps
    people express their thoughts and ambitions in a captivating way.

    ADAPTABILITY

    Shared Theme Description
    People who are especially talented in the Adaptability theme prefer to “go with the flow.” They tend to
    be “now” people who take things as they come and discover the future one day at a time.

    Your Personalized Strengths Insights

    What makes you stand out?
    Driven by your talents, you perform quite well in situations where shifting priorities and changing
    plans are the norm. You have a gift for reacting in the moment rather than delaying action.
    Instinctively, you need to have time to rest and unwind. Rushing from one activity or assignment to
    another can take a toll on you mentally, physically, or emotionally. So, rather than do the opposite of
    what everyone else is doing, you prefer to move in the same direction as they are. Typically you
    choose to use the processes they are using. In your opinion, being cooperative is not only sensible
    and efficient, but also less exhausting. Chances are good that you allow events to unfold. You have
    the good sense to be flexible and accept change as it occurs. This explains why your friends often
    describe you as unflappable — that is, not easily excited. Because of your strengths, you allow your
    life to unfold naturally. You trust you will find your path as it evolves. You resist being tied to
    predetermined plans and standardized systems. You prefer to experience life in the moment. You are
    eager to see where it takes you. By nature, you are a free spirit who is seldom thrown off balance by
    unexpected events and comments. Instead, you react to things as they occur. You are quite
    comfortable letting your future unfold at its own pace.
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    Adaptability sounds like this:
    Marie T., television producer: “I love live TV because you never know what is going to happen. One
    minute, I might be putting together a segment on the best teenage holiday gifts, and the next, I will be
    doing the pre-interview for a presidential candidate. I guess I have always been this way. I live in the
    moment. If someone asks me, ‘What are you doing tomorrow?’ my answer is always, ‘I don’t know.
    Depends what I’m in the mood for.’ I drive my boyfriend crazy because he’ll plan for us to go to the
    antique market on Sunday afternoon, and then right at the last minute, I’ll change my mind and say,
    ‘Nah, let’s go home and read the Sunday papers.’ Annoying, right? Yeah, but on the positive side, it
    does mean that I’m up for anything.”
    Linda G., project manager: “Where I work, I am the calmest person I know. When someone comes in
    and says, ‘We didn’t plan right. We need this turned around by tomorrow,’ my colleagues seem to
    tense up and freeze. Somehow that doesn’t happen to me. I like that pressure, that need for instant
    response. It makes me feel alive.”
    Peter F., corporate trainer: “I think I deal with life better than most people. Last week, I found that my
    car window had been smashed and the stereo stolen. I was annoyed, of course, but it didn’t throw me
    off my day one bit. I just cleared it, mentally moved on, and went right on with the other things I had to
    get done that day.”
    Ideas for Action:
    Cultivate your reputation as a calm and reassuring person when others become upset by
    daily events.
    Avoid roles that demand structure and predictability. These roles will quickly frustrate you,
    make you feel inadequate, and stifle your independence.
    When the pressure is on, help your hesitant friends, colleagues, and clients find ways to
    collect themselves and take control of the situation. Explain that adaptability is about more
    than simply rolling with the punches; it is about calmly, intelligently, and readily responding
    to circumstances.
    Don’t let others abuse your inherent flexibility. Though your Adaptability talents serve you
    well, don’t compromise your long-term success by bending to every whim, desire, and
    demand of others. Use smart guidelines to help you decide when to flex and when to stand
    firm.
    Seek roles in which success depends on responding to constantly changing circumstances.
    Consider career areas such as journalism, live television production, emergency healthcare,
    and customer service. In these roles, the best react the fastest and stay levelheaded.
    Fine-tune your responsiveness. For example, if your job demands unanticipated travel, learn
    how to pack and leave in 30 minutes. If your work pressure comes in unpredictable spurts,
    practice the first three moves you will always make when the pressure hits.
    Look to others for planning. People who have strong Focus, Strategic, or Belief talents can
    help you shape your long-term goals, leaving you to excel at dealing with the day-to-day
    variations.
    Your Adaptability talents give you an even-keel mindset that lets you ride the ups and downs
    without becoming an emotional volcano. Your “don’t cry over spilled milk” approach will help
    you quickly recover from setbacks. Recognize this aspect of your nature, and help your
    friends and colleagues understand that it is productive flexibility rather than an “I don’t care”
    attitude.
    Avoid tasks that are too structured and stifle your need for variety. If given a list of tasks to
    complete, try to indulge your desire for flexibility by making a game of that list. See if you
    can be creative or make the tasks more fun in some way.
    Openly use your reassuring demeanor to soothe disgruntled friends or coworkers. Think
    about the approach you used, and remember to apply it again when the situation presents
    itself.

    HARMONY

    Shared Theme Description
    People who are especially talented in the Harmony theme look for consensus. They don’t enjoy
    conflict; rather, they seek areas of agreement.

    Your Personalized Strengths Insights
    What makes you stand out?
    By nature, you may have a reputation for being matter-of-fact, objective, or practical in your approach
    to certain people or specific situations. When you have doubts about what to do, you might turn to
    reliable specialists for direction. Perhaps you avoid preconceived notions. Instead, you may listen to
    what others say, then choose the best course of action. You might give most ideas or suggestions
    equal consideration. While this process is lengthy, maybe you realize it is time well spent. Chances
    are good that you sometimes think like a scientist or a detective. To some extent, you search for
    clues, isolate facts, and solve mysteries. Occasionally you use this information to make people aware
    of the way things really are. You may be able to help certain individuals put aside their biases,
    misconceptions, prejudices, or emotions. Perhaps you can prevent arguments or disagreements from
    ruining some relationships. Because of your strengths, you are happy to do exactly what is assigned
    to you, as long as you sense you are not being asked to carry more than your fair share of the
    workload. Checking those tasks off your list brings you much pleasure, and it helps you get along with
    others who notice your close attention to the work required of you. It’s very likely that you occasionally
    carve out time to envision what might be accomplished in the coming weeks, months, years, or
    decades. People may welcome your ideas when they appear practical or doable. Perhaps you refuse
    to force anyone to embrace your initiative exactly as you have outlined it. Maybe you add a few of
    their ideas so the plan becomes theirs rather than yours alone. Sometimes your diplomatic approach
    prevents misunderstandings or disagreements from arising later in the process. Instinctively, you
    might educate yourself about the basic facts surrounding certain types of issues or situations. To
    reduce the possibility of conflict, you may consider everyone’s point of view. Perhaps you help some
    individuals see where they are in agreement with others. Now and then, you can move specific
    individuals toward consensus — that is, a judgment arrived at by most of those concerned.

    Harmony sounds like this:

    Jane C., Benedictine nun: “I like people. I relate to them easily because I am very strong in
    adjustment. I take the shape of the vessel into which I am poured, so I don’t irritate easily.”
    Chuck M., teacher: “I don’t like conflict in class, but I have learned to let things run their course
    instead of trying to stop it right away. When I first started teaching, if someone said something
    negative, I would think, ‘Oh, why did you have to say that?’ and try to get rid of it right away. But now I
    simply try to get the opinion of someone else in the class so that perhaps we can have different points
    of view on the same topic.”

    Tom P., technician: “I can remember vividly when I was ten or eleven and some of the kids in my
    school would get into arguments. For some reason, I would feel compelled to get in the middle of
    things and find the common ground. I was the peacemaker.”

    Ideas for Action:

    Use your Harmony talents to build a network of people with differing perspectives. Rely on
    these people when you need expertise. Your openness to these differing perspectives will
    help you learn.

    When two people are arguing, ask others in the group to share their thoughts. By increasing
    the number of voices in the conversation, you are more likely to find areas where all parties
    can agree. You can draw people together.
    Avoid roles that will lead you to confront people on a daily basis. Sales roles based on “cold
    calls” or roles in highly competitive workplaces, for example, will frustrate or upset you.
    Practice your techniques for resolving conflict without confrontation. Without these polished
    techniques, you might find yourself simply running away from conflicts, leaving them
    unresolved. This could lead you to passive-aggressive behavior.
    Partner with someone especially talented in Command or Activator. When all your best
    efforts to resolve a conflict have met with no success, this person can help you confront it
    head-on.
    Create interactions and forums in which people feel like their opinions are truly being heard.
    In doing so, you will help others become more engaged in group projects and activities.
    Be aware that your attempts to create harmony by allowing everyone a turn to speak might
    actually create disharmony in some people. Individuals with exceptional Achiever talents, for
    example, may be anxious to make a decision and take action. Learn to briefly yet effectively
    communicate the value of listening.
    Understand that some may take advantage of your efforts to produce harmony. On
    occasion, when everyone is getting an opportunity to speak, some individuals might waste
    time positioning themselves or getting into lofty debates that have little relevance to the task
    at hand. At these times, do not hesitate to jump in and turn the conversation around to more
    practical matters. A balance between listening and efficiency is key to harmony.
    In discussions, look for the practical side of things. Help others see this practical side. It is
    the starting point of agreement.
    Deference comes naturally for you. You easily step aside when someone with superior
    expertise enters. Take the next step by inviting those with greater expertise to consult.

    ACTIVATOR

    Shared Theme Description
    People who are especially talented in the Activator theme can make things happen by turning
    thoughts into action. They are often impatient.
    Your Personalized Strengths Insights
    What makes you stand out?
    By nature, you reach conclusions by using reason. You evaluate all the facts to pinpoint what is and
    is not relevant. The mental rigor you demand of yourself prepares you to launch projects. Driven by
    your talents, you periodically issue direct orders to certain individuals. Some may feel you are
    overstepping the bounds of your authority or are being a bit bossy. Perhaps this is just your way of
    influencing some people to apply their time or energy to the task at hand. It’s very likely that you are
    naturally open and honest about who you are, what you have done, what you can do, and what you
    cannot do. Your straightforward explanations and stories help listeners see you as you see yourself.
    You reveal your strengths and limitations. You are forthright and plainspoken. People generally seek
    your company and want to work with you. Many are impelled to move into action by your words and
    examples. Instinctively, you may relish talking to others about things that are going well in their lives.
    Sometimes you help people enthusiastically express their opinions, thoughts, or viewpoints. To some
    extent, your words can energize individuals or groups. Chances are good that you may generate
    enough enthusiasm in certain individuals that they become almost as eager as you are to transform
    an idea into something tangible. Perhaps you are energized, not paralyzed, by opportunities and
    possibilities.
    Activator sounds like this:
    Jane C., Benedictine nun: “When I was prioress in the 1970s, we were hit by the energy shortage,
    and costs skyrocketed. We had a hundred and forty acres, and I walked the acreage every day
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    pondering what we should do about this energy shortage. Suddenly I decided that if we had that
    much land, we should be drilling our own gas well, and so we did. We spent one hundred thousand
    dollars to drill a gas well. If you have never drilled a gas well, you probably don’t realize what I didn’t
    realize: namely, that you have to spend seventy thousand dollars just to drill to see if you have any
    gas on your property at all. So they dug down with some kind of vibratory camera thing, and they told
    me that I had a gas pool. But they didn’t know how large the pool was, and they didn’t know if there
    was enough pressure to bring it up. ‘If you pay another thirty thousand dollars, we will try to release
    the well,’ they said. ‘If you don’t want us to, we’ll just cap the well, take your seventy thousand, and go
    home.’ So I gave them the final thirty thousand and, fortunately, up it came. That was twenty years
    ago, and it is still pumping.”
    Jim L., entrepreneur: “Some people see my impatience as not wanting to listen to the traps, the
    potential roadblocks. What I keep repeating is, ‘I want to know when I am going to hit the wall, and I
    need you to tell me how much it is going to hurt. But if I choose to bump into the wall anyway, then
    don’t worry — you’ve done your job. I just had to experience it for myself.’”
    Ideas for Action:
    Seek work in which you can make your own decisions and act on them. In particular, look
    for start-up or turnaround situations.
    At work, make sure that your manager judges you on measurable outcomes rather than
    your process. Your process is not always pretty.
    You can transform innovative ideas into immediate action. Look for creative and original
    thinkers, and help them move their ideas from conceptual theory to concrete practice.
    Look for areas that are bogged down by discussion or blocked by barriers. End the
    stalemate by creating a plan to get things moving and spur others into action.
    You learn more from real experience than from theoretical discussions. To grow,
    consciously expose yourself to challenging experiences that will test your talents, skills, and
    knowledge.
    Remember that although your tenacity is powerful, it may intimidate some. Your Activator
    talents will be most effective when you have first earned others’ trust and loyalty.
    Identify the most influential decision makers in your organization. Make it a point to have
    lunch with each of them at least once a quarter to share your ideas. They can support you in
    your activation and provide critical resources to make your ideas happen.
    You can easily energize the plans and ideas of others. Consider partnering with focused,
    futuristic, strategic, or analytical people who will lend their direction and planning to your
    activation, thereby creating an opportunity to build consensus and get others behind the
    plan. By doing this, you complement each other.
    Give the reasons why your requests for action must be granted. Otherwise, others might
    dismiss you as impatient and label you a ‘ready, fire, aim’ person.
    You possess an ability to create motion and momentum in others. Be strategic and wise in
    the use of your Activator talents. When is the best time, where is the best place, and who
    are the best people with whom to leverage your valuable influence?

    CONTEXT

    Shared Theme Description
    People who are especially talented in the Context theme enjoy thinking about the past. They
    understand the present by researching its history.

    Your Personalized Strengths Insights

    What makes you stand out?

    It’s very likely that you like visiting, thinking, and working with people who have a keen appreciation of
    past events. Their accurate understanding of historic figures probably piques — that is, arouses –
    your interest. By nature, you are excited to discover new facts about historic events and key people.
    Your commonly rely on experts who have conducted in-depth research on various periods of history.
    Chances are good that you are quite intrigued by history’s significant events and people. Information
    about global conflicts fascinates you. Instinctively, you are intrigued by experts who can enlighten you
    about past events or historic people. You are particularly interested in history’s contribution to the
    current state of affairs. Because of your strengths, you want to spend time with people who
    appreciate history and have become experts on various eras. Former teachers and/or mentors who
    befriended you probably encouraged your interest in history. As a result of that encouragement, you
    realized that you master facts much more easily when the teacher or expert cares about you as a
    human being.

    Context sounds like this:

    Adam Y., software designer: “I tell my people, ‘Let’s avoid vuja de.’ And they say, ‘Isn’t that the wrong
    word? Shouldn’t it be déjà vu?’ And I say, ‘No, vuja de means that we’re bound to repeat the mistakes
    of our past. We must avoid this. We must look to our past, see what led to our mistakes, and then not
    make them again.’ It sounds obvious, but most people don’t look to their past or don’t trust that it was
    valid or something. And so for them, it’s vuja de all over again.”
    Jesse K., media analyst: “I have very little empathy, so I don’t relate to people through their present
    emotional state. Instead, I relate to them through their past. In fact, I can’t even begin to understand
    people until I have found out where they grew up, what their parents were like, and what they studied
    in college.”

    Gregg H., accounting manager: “I recently moved the whole office to a new accounting system, and
    the only reason it worked was that I honored their past. When people build an accounting system, it’s
    their blood, sweat, and tears; it’s them. They are personally identified with it. So if I come in and
    blandly tell them that I’m going to change it, it’s like me saying I am going to take your baby away.
    That’s the level of emotion I was dealing with. I had to respect this connection, this history, or they
    would have rejected me out of hand.”

    Ideas for Action:

    Before planning begins on a project, encourage the people involved to study past projects.
    Help them appreciate the statement: “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned
    to repeat it.”
    If you are in a role that requires teaching others, build your lessons around case studies.
    You will enjoy the search for the appropriate case, and your students will learn from these
    precedents. Use your understanding of the past to help others map the future.
    At work, help your organization strengthen its culture via folklore. For example, collect
    symbols and stories that represent the best of the past, or suggest naming an award after a
    person who embodied the historical traditions of your organization.
    Partner with someone with strong Futuristic or Strategic talents. This person’s fascination
    with what “could be” will stop you from becoming mired in the past, while your deep
    understanding of context will stop him or her from ignoring the lessons of the past. Together
    you are more likely to create something that lasts.
    Accept change. Remember that your Context talents do not require you to “live in the past.”
    Instead, you can actually become known as an active agent for positive change. Your
    natural sense of context should allow you to identify more clearly than most the aspects of
    the past that can be discarded and those that must be retained to build a sustainable future.
    Use fact-based comparisons to prior successes to paint a vivid picture for others of “what
    can be” in the future. The real-life illustrations you create can build confidence and
    emotional engagement.
    You recognize that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Probe your friends
    and coworkers about actions that might have contributed to their current successes so you
    can help them make better choices in the future. This will help them put their decisions into
    an overall context.
    Read historical novels, non-fiction, or biographies. You will discover many insights that will
    help you understand the present. You will think more clearly.
    Compare historical antecedents and situations to your current challenge. Identifying
    commonalities may lead you to a new perspective or an answer to your problems.
    Seek out mentors who have a sense of history. Listening to their memories is likely to spark
    your thought process.

February 8, 2008

  • megalomaniac-

    a delusional mental disorder that is marked by feelings of personal omnipotence.

February 6, 2008

  • Little help?

    EDIT:  How about an ISTP? or ENFP?

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    Does anyone know anyone I might know directly who is either an ESFP or an ISTJ?

    Having a hard time identifying what these traits are like in person.

February 5, 2008

  • ******: they like to always ask how was your day, etc. and it just makes me feel like
    they’re prying into my life and i dont want to tell them anything. and i def
    dont want to listen to their 1 hour response to “how was your day”

    Caleb
    :
    HAHAHAHAH

    ******: but its true

    soo needy
    i’m your new roommate. not your shrink and not your close
    circle.

February 2, 2008

  • chalk up a win for the good guys.

    Poland will allow us to install our missile shield to protect NATO allies on their soil.  Russia’s pissed about it, thinking it has to do with lobbing missiles into Russia, which is ludicrous because the silos are meant to intercept nukes, not send out nukes.  In return, Poland will get SAMs. (Surface to Air Missile batteries).

    Good guys 1.

    Paranoid Russians 0.

    Maybe Russia wants Iran and North Korea to have nuclear capability just to keep Western allies off balance.  Kinda like when the Russians killed a Russian defector with radioactive poisoning when he fled to England.

  • drop it like it’s hot.